tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998642513449094998.post9090151479103753695..comments2023-11-30T04:43:54.844-05:00Comments on A Muddled Mother: To the Woman With The Raised Eyebrows: I did not abandon my sonAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00067535681616087770noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998642513449094998.post-48822428716491662922014-08-13T17:08:30.587-04:002014-08-13T17:08:30.587-04:00Thank you for posting this and for sharing the pa...Thank you for posting this and for sharing the pain that goes with having to say good bye, knowing that it might be for forever if things don't change. I have a son who I also had to let go, although through a different means and for some different reasons than yours. I love him, but I cannot have him in my home. He is a danger to himself, to my other children and to me. He doesn't believe the rules (any rules) apply to him because he is special. <br /><br />It is the hardest thing to do, to walk away, to cut off contact and to protect the rest of your loved ones from someone else you love. Only parents who have been there, truly understand the depths of the pain and heartache that go with such a decision. The judgement from others is just one of the reasons very few people know the details about my son and why he is no longer part of my life. <br /><br />What strikes me as odd and even more hurtful is that if you described the behaviors and told that the person doing them was a spouse, partner, friend, etc. Very few, would ever question your decision to cut them out of your life until those behaviors change...but as soon as you say it is a human being you birthed... you are a monster. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998642513449094998.post-70311893677080142322014-08-13T11:11:16.753-04:002014-08-13T11:11:16.753-04:00I get what you are saying. I kicked my youngest o...I get what you are saying. I kicked my youngest out of the house after numerous warnings about what the consequences of his running away each weekend would be. He was 14 1/2. He summered at his girlfriend's parents house and came back when school was about to start. He wasn't perfect but had a new understanding of what I was willing to do if he did not behave appropriately. <br /> He is now an interesting and thoughtful adult who apologizes for how badly he behaved. He is now my easiest child and he calls several times a week and we have the best conversations. <br /><br />There will always be judgmental people we have to deal with. I guess that you could just tell them to appreciate that these issues have not visited them....because they have no understanding of what it feels like. <br /><br />I hope that the issues your family is experiencing resolve in a positive way and that your son has the revelations he needs to set himself aright. He will then know just how much you love him. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998642513449094998.post-29581952090895719702014-06-03T16:25:47.088-04:002014-06-03T16:25:47.088-04:00Amen, Laura!
If only it were so easy, to just ab...Amen, Laura! <br /><br />If only it were so easy, to just abandon them, to just let go of all that love and all that pain. Not even close to that easy.Kizz at 117 Hudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07641731042008349260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998642513449094998.post-56409586667578258832014-06-03T07:28:45.473-04:002014-06-03T07:28:45.473-04:00In the history of retorts, Laura C. NAILED it! (El...In the history of retorts, Laura C. NAILED it! (Eloquently, no less.) Haters gonna hate. LOL Pay them NO mind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998642513449094998.post-78492830357175140362014-06-03T01:47:59.229-04:002014-06-03T01:47:59.229-04:00Anyone who knows you will know that you haven'...Anyone who knows you will know that you haven't abandoned your son. She, on the other hand, has clearly chosen to abandon good taste, judgment, and her humanity. Hope she finds them, before she gets punched by someone less gracious than you, Logan. You are one tough mother!Laura C.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998642513449094998.post-59286863342147690012014-06-02T22:57:07.072-04:002014-06-02T22:57:07.072-04:00As a single mom with a teenager that has done all ...As a single mom with a teenager that has done all of the same, except for get involved with drugs, I share your sentiments and applaud the difficult decision you were faced with. I've learned to ignore the comments and criticisms from those that have never walked in my shoes. There's enough heartache to deal with, I don't need it up be compounded by the guilt they think I should have, when I've done everything I know to do to try to keep my kid from going down the wrong path. That doesn't mean I don't wish them a bit of the same difficulty when their kids become teenagers...just a bit. I'm told my daughter will be human again after her frontal lobe is fully developed, in her early 20s. I can only pray she makes it through without causing irreparable damage. Blessings to you and you're family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com